Let go of people who are not ready to love you. This is the hardest thing you'll ever have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing.
These words is supposed to come from actor Anthony Hopkins. This I cannot guarantee, but these are wise words – so I choose to share them with you, and in doing so I think that Hopkins is the originator of this text, because there is nothing to suggest that he is not. On the contrary.
Let go of people who are not ready to love you.
This is the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having difficult conversations with people who don’t want to change.
Stop showing up for people who are not interested in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything possible to gain the appreciation of those around you, but it’s an impulse that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.
When you start fighting for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you to that place. It doesn’t mean you have to change who you are, it means you have to let go of people who aren’t ready to be with you. If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and your life.
Truth is you ain’t for everybody and everybody ain’t for you. This is what makes it so special when you find people you have friendship with or mutual love. You will know how precious it is because you have experienced what is not. There are billions of people on this planet and many of them you will find at your level of interest and commitment. Maybe if you stop showing up, they won’t look for you. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship ends.
Maybe if you stop texting, your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing sustaining it was the energy you only gave to keep it. That’s not love, that’s attachment.
It’s giving a chance to those who don’t deserve it!
You deserve so much more. The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, as both are limited. The people and things you give your time and energy to, will define your existence. When you realize this you start to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, activities or spaces that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be near you.
You will start to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.
Make your life a safe haven, where only people “compatible” with you are allowed.
You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to do better. It’s not your job to exist for people and give them your life!
You deserve real friendships, true commitments and a complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Decision to distance yourself from toxic people, will give you the love, esteem, happiness and protection you deserve. Anthony Hopkins
If you want to read my advices regarding life, friendship and health – click here. And for Sex, Love & Relationships- click here.
Live your life through joy, generosity and love – then the world becomes a better place to be for all of us.
Shortly about me/this blog – I am an author, journalist, artist, sommelier and traveller that have experienced a lot of beautiful places all over our amazing world. I have written articles for several magazines for more than three decades, and have written over 30 books, including more than 20 on the subject of wine. You can read my travel tips here – and my books can be found on Amazon, among other places.
If you want to cooperate, please feel free to contact me at: truhole@hotmail.no
Please join this blog if you like, by clicking the FOLLOW icon on the right. If you wan´t to add me at SOME or see my art or buy my books or wine courses – please do so. You will find all my SOME sites at linktr.ee/trudehelenhole. Thank you, and have a beautiful day with a lot of love and laughter.
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These words is supposed to come from actor Anthony Hopkins. This I cannot guarantee, but these are wise words – so I choose to share them with you, and in doing so I think that Hopkins is the originator of this text, because there is nothing to suggest that he is not. On the contrary.
Let go of people who are not ready to love you.
This is the hardest thing you’ll ever have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having difficult conversations with people who don’t want to change.
Stop showing up for people who are not interested in your presence. I know your instinct is to do everything possible to gain the appreciation of those around you, but it’s an impulse that steals your time, energy, mental and physical health.
When you start fighting for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you to that place. It doesn’t mean you have to change who you are, it means you have to let go of people who aren’t ready to be with you. If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and your life.
Truth is you ain’t for everybody and everybody ain’t for you. This is what makes it so special when you find people you have friendship with or mutual love. You will know how precious it is because you have experienced what is not. There are billions of people on this planet and many of them you will find at your level of interest and commitment. Maybe if you stop showing up, they won’t look for you. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship ends.
Maybe if you stop texting, your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing sustaining it was the energy you only gave to keep it. That’s not love, that’s attachment.
You deserve so much more. The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, as both are limited. The people and things you give your time and energy to, will define your existence. When you realize this you start to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, activities or spaces that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be near you.
You will start to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.
Make your life a safe haven, where only people “compatible” with you are allowed.
You are not responsible for saving anyone.
You are not responsible for convincing them to do better.
It’s not your job to exist for people and give them your life!
You deserve real friendships, true commitments and a complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Decision to distance yourself from toxic people, will give you the love, esteem, happiness and protection you deserve. Anthony Hopkins
If you want to read my advices regarding life, friendship and health – click here. And for Sex, Love & Relationships- click here.
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Shortly about me/this blog – I am an author, journalist, artist, sommelier and traveller that have experienced a lot of beautiful places all over our amazing world. I have written articles for several magazines for more than three decades, and have written over 30 books, including more than 20 on the subject of wine. You can read my travel tips here – and my books can be found on Amazon, among other places.
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