I simply had to publish this text today, written by Anthony Hopkins, because it is exactly what I have written and conveyed for a number of years on this blog. These are wise words and advice I have not been clever enough to follow myself. I have regularly cleaned up family and friendship relationships, but it is only during the last year that I have done the same with my closest friends – and it has been a true liberation. So read these wise words and use them wisely for your own good, for this is your life – and the main role is yours. You write the script and you then decide which people you want to include in your movie.
ANTHONY HOPKINS – Powerful words. ′′Let go the people who are not prepared to love you. This is the hardest thing you will have to do in your life and it will also be the most important thing. Stop having hard conversations with people who don’t want change. Stop showing up for people who have no interest in your presence.
When you begin to fight for a life with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to follow you in this place. This doesn’t mean you need to change what you are, it means you should let go of the people who aren’t ready to accompany you.
If you are excluded, insulted, forgotten or ignored by the people you give your time to, you don’t do yourself a favor by continuing to offer your energy and your life. The truth is that you are not for everyone and not everyone is for you. That’s what makes it so special when you meet people who reciprocate love.
You will know how precious you are. The more time you spend trying to make yourself loved by someone who is unable to, the more time you waste depriving yourself of the possibility of this connection to someone else. There are billions of people on this planet and many of them will meet with you at your level of interest and commitment.
Maybe if you stop showing up, you won’t be wanted. Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end. Maybe if you stop texting your phone will stay dark for weeks. That doesn’t mean you ruined the relationship, it means the only thing holding it back was the energy that only you gave to keep it.
This is not love, it’s attachment. It’s wanting to give a chance to those who don’t deserve it. You deserve so much, there are people who should not be in your life. The most valuable thing you have in your life is your time and energy, and both are limited. When you give your time and energy, it will define your existence.
When you realize this, you begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend time with people, in activities, places or situations that don’t suit you and shouldn’t be around you, your energy is stolen. You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for yourself and for everyone around you is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.
Make your life a safe haven, in which only ′′compatible′′ people are allowed. You are not responsible for saving anyone. You are not responsible for convincing them to improve. It’s not your work to exist for people and give your life to them! If you feel bad, if you feel compelled, you will be the root of all your problems, fearing that they will not return the favors you have granted. It’s your only obligation to realize that you are the love of your destiny and accept the love you deserve.
Decide that you deserve true friendship, commitment, true and complete love with healthy and prosperous people. Then wait and see how much everything begins to change. Don’t waste time with people who are not worth it. Change will give you the love, the esteem, happiness and the protection you deserve.”
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So, now you understand why I simply had to publish this text by Anthony Hopkins. It´s important, and it´s exactly what I have written and conveyed for a number of years on this blog. These are wise words and advice I have not been clever enough to follow until lately. I have regularly cleaned up family and friendship relationships, but it is only during the last year that I have done the same with my closest friends – and it has been a true liberation.
The truth is that reality can be something completely different than what you see or think, because you might fool yourself into believing that your relationship with a person is good for you. You may be keeping the relationship simply because it has become an old habit and you don´t think there is anything better for you out there.
This is a good time for self-examination. The last year has, as you probably has noticed, shown the truth about the people around you, which is good. Our time is limited, so we need to use our time and energy wisely. I no longer have tolerance or patience for people with little tolerance and a narrow view of humanity, people who never manage to show generosity and are not able to take responsibility of their own mistakes.
I no longer want to spend time with people who eat others energy and time for breakfast, and never gives back – and it is quite liberating to finally realize that a friendship you thought had value and that you have fertilized and nurtured for years, has not.
The reason why I have deleted several of my earlier loved ones, is quite easy – it´s not them, it´s me – I have changed! I have become better acquainted with myself, what I stand for and my own patience, and with that I have changed my point of view on life and those around me.
My time is the only thing I have of real value, I have no more patience left – and by letting go of these people, new people have suddenly appeared in my life. This is the kind of people that Hopkins is talking about, healthy and prosperous people that´s giving my life energy, creativity and joy, not to mention curiosity and respect that goes both ways. And I love it!
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